Amongst others things, communication is one of the things that can make or break a marriage – depending on how efficient your form of communication is. This is why women get a bad reputation for nagging, which is not the most efficient way to get things done…yet continue to do it anyway.
So why does your wife nag?
1. She’s not your maid
If your typical routine is to come home from work, sit on the couch and not move until it’s time for bed, there’s your problem. That’s why she keeps asking you to do the same things: Clothes go IN the laundry hamper, not right next to it. Peels and wrappers go into the garbage. That mess you made from making lunch? You can spare the two minutes it takes to clean it up.
You might think it’s not a big deal – She can pick up a pair of socks from the family room floor, right? But so can you!
Yes, picking up a pair of socks is easy but if you say that about every little thing, it adds up.
What to do
Take a few seconds and look around before leaving a room; The less of a mess you leave, the happier your wife will be.
2. She isn’t sure you’re listening
If your wife asks you to take out the garbage, how long does it usually take you to do it? If you’re a person who doesn’t respond right away, or someone who forgets the favor while staring at the TV, that’s why she has to rephrase and repeat the question…constantly.
Maybe she wasn’t heard or no one listened to her when she was younger. Maybe she is trying to get things done and could use some help. That’s why talking, with actual words and not grunts, is important in your relationship. Talk about it and understand where each of you is coming from.
What to do
It’s not hard to stop whatever you’re doing and look her in the eyes and acknowledge the question. Promise to really talk to her. When she’s talking, listen. There’s nothing better for building a better relationship than being heard.